We all love to work and earn a reasonable income
But too much of work can ruin back to you!
Not wanting to leave work isn’t necessarily about being a workaholic. There can be a myriad of reasons why we may feel uncertain, reluctant, or even afraid about leaving work at the end of each day.
There are those who will be incredulous that this might be a ‘thing’; they can hardly wait for clocking-off time to arrive when they’re finally free to walk out the door.
Now, who is a workaholic?
Workaholism means that you give more importance and value to work than any other activity. A workaholic is someone who continuously thinks about a job and without work feels anxious and depressed.
Characteristics of a Workaholic
- Ranks work on top
- Works in free time also
- Unhappy when not doing work
- Less importance to family
So why do some people not want to leave work?
A work environment is often familiar and routine, with regular duties that we’re engaged to perform each day. Even if we don’t like colleagues we just work.
We may share coffees and perhaps even lunch together. Staying on a little longer, not wanting to leave on time may be fine, especially if we’re busy and involved in doing some valuable work. We know and understand our role and can slip into auto-pilot, even when it’s stressful and not always comfortable.
If the home is tense, difficult, or chaotic work may sense like a place of order and balance. When domestic life is unhappy and filled with arguments or unruly children we may find valid reasons to justify staying on at work rather than leaving to go home. If we don’t anticipate a warm welcome or being particularly wanted it can be a relief to stay on, busily doing something useful, especially when so many workplaces are understaffed.
In fact, recent research has revealed that 1/5 staff worked an extra 7 hours of unpaid overtime each week and 1/14 didn’t take their full holiday entitlement last year.
Equally, if the home is empty and lonely, with nothing to look forward to staying on at work can feel a more viable option. The prospect of making a start on building a life and cultivating new friends and interests can be overwhelming.
Where to begin?
If we’re new to the area, recently separated, divorced, or bereaved it can be tough keeping everything together. There may be self-belief or financial considerations that impact on our capability or desire to get out and socialize. Work may be our comfort zone, where we know what to do, what’s expected of us and can put our head down, keep busy, and earn money.
Sometimes learning to trust others and form relationships on our own might be stressful. At work, we have a clearly defined role and status. We may have a job title to stand behind; it informs others of who we are and why we’re there. It’s different in the ‘real world’ where people may ask us questions about ourselves and we risk being judged, albeit unofficially, on our answers. Being disliked, rejected, dismissed, found uninteresting rarely happens in the same way at work.
If we find ourselves increasingly reluctant to leave work and go home we may need to do a little work on ourselves or risk becoming increasingly isolated from social life as well as existing and new relationships. Becoming skilled at dealing with differing opinions and values, learning about ourselves, and growing is part of functioning well as an adult but requires ongoing effort and commitment.
Are you finding it difficult to identify whether you are a workaholic or just working a lot? Ask these questions to yourself
- Am I happy with the job?
- Am I invading my personal life?
- Am I facing difficulty in relaxing?
- Am I delegating my work?
- Am I stressed with my work?
How can you free yourself?
- Set a margin for your work
- Manage your time to work
- Visit a Counselor
If you are a workaholic, put off this weekend and spend some quality time with those you love. It might be hard at first to disengage from work, but it will become easier once you start practicing it. After years, when you retire look back on how you spent your life, you should not regret to want you did.